As a people-pleaser, one of my greatest fears used to be provoking people by either speaking my truth or standing up for myself.
But then could making enemies possibly be a good thing?
While binge-watching “The Crown” on Netflix, a beautiful poem by Charles Mackay caught my attention and sparked an unexpected reflection. Here it is:
“You have no enemies, you say?
Alas, my friend, the boast is poor.
He who has mingled in the fray of duty that the brave endure must have made foes.
If you have none, small is the work that you have done.
You’ve hit no traitor on the hip.
You’ve dashed no cup from perjured lip. You’ve never turned the wrong to right.
You’ve been a coward in the fight.”
This poem challenges us to rethink the notion of being ‘too nice’ and the implications it has on our lives and the impact we make.
It’s a compelling reminder that standing up for what’s right often means facing opposition, and that can be a sign of courage and integrity.
Is it possible that by avoiding conflict and pleasing everyone, we miss out on fighting the good fights?
How willing are you to stand up for your beliefs – even if it means making a few enemies?