In any setting, be it personal relationships, professional dynamics, or social interactions, religious and cultural beliefs, the essence of coexistence lies in the ability to appreciate differences of opinion without spiraling into conflicts. It is a delicate balance that requires a conscious effort to respect diverse viewpoints while upholding mutual understanding.
However, society often places more weight on external opinions than on individual convictions. The pressure to conform to societal norms, influenced by one’s family, neighbours, religious and cultural expectations can sometimes overshadow one’s own beliefs. The tendency to prioritize external validation over personal values can lead to inner conflicts and a loss of authenticity.
Matabhed vs Manabhed
While recently watching the season 3 of the series Maharani, these two particular words stood out, “Matabhed” and “Manabhed”. This simple yet profound distinction between difference of opinion and conflict stuck a cord with me, sparkling a cascade of thoughts that have long been deeply rooted in my beliefs. It was in that moment, that I felt compelled to write this blog.
While disagreements are inevitable in a family dynamic or in a diverse world, it is crucial to remember that questioning ideas or beliefs should not equate to disrespect. After all, nurturing independent thinking is essential for growth and progress, similar to wanting our children to think critically and make choices based on reason.
The distinction between using “versus” to denote sides and “and” to indicate alignment with another underscores the subtle yet significant nuances in our language and communication. For example, when initiating a legal case against someone, we use the term “versus”, while the use of “and” in a partnership deed highlights the importance of these minor yet significant words.
Debates, rooted in mutual respect and a shared quest for understanding, should be welcomed and encouraged. In a democracy, it is of paramount importance, that on every occasion, both sides should be willing to accept rather impose their views on each other. A true democratic debate was very well explained in a scene from the movie The American President, where the President says:
“ ….. You gotta want it bad, ‘cause it’s gonna put up a fight. It’s gonna say, ‘You want free speech? Let’s see you acknowledge a man whose words make your blood boil, who’s standing centre stage and advocating at the top of his lungs that which you would spend a lifetime opposing at the top of yours….. Show me that, defend that, celebrate that in your classrooms.”
This is a fine example of defending one’s viewpoint whole heartedly while acknowledging and respecting opposing perspectives.
Conviction: Religion vs Culture and Outside Influence
In the complex tapestry of cultural and religious diversity, it is essential to discern between the two. While religion may offer paths to spiritual truths, culture dictates our way of life and collective identity.
Unfortunately, as I see it over the past couple of years, we are accepting polarisation and centralisation as a norm. This has led to the fusion of culture and religion which, in contemporary discourse, has led to misunderstandings and conflicts rooted in ignorance. The push towards adopting others’ perspective as our own in this context prompts reflection: Does this adaptation truly render it effortlessly enforceable, or are we ourselves enabling this process to flow more smoothly? If we indeed enable this ease, can we hold others responsible? Our faith, beliefs and convictions are our own to uphold and defend. Does this reliance on others to do our job makes us hypocritical or are we in fear?
I will try to translate and explain, to the best of my ability, a speech from the TV series Chanakya (1991) which will cement the point I am trying to make :
The cause of your downfall is you yourself. The cause of our downfall is we ourselves. No value or culture can survive unless it is practiced in honestly. Those who consider the rise of other sects as the cause of the downfall of their faith are lying. Your faith was yours, how could it fall? And if your faith is not based on truth then it should fall? Your path may be different, his path may be different. The paths to reach the truth may be different. The path of one who does not take others along with him is wrong. Different religions express the same truth in difference ways. Religions can be the paths, but not goals.
The speech emphasises that the journey towards truth may be diverse, but it is imperative to recognise and respect alternative paths without resorting to animosity.
Embracing Unity and Celebrating Holi:
Let us strive to attack problems and not individuals and navigate differences with grace and engage. In a world where differences often lead to divisions, embracing dialogue, showing respect and having an open –mind is the key to decentralize, build bridges and foster harmonious relationships where differences are celebrated rather than feared.
Just as the festival of Holi splashes a myriad of colours into our lives, symbolizing joy and togetherness, let us embrace the diversity of opinions and perspectives around us. Much like the saffron, white and green of our national flag, each representing courage, peace and growth respectively, every unique viewpoint enriches the tapestry of our conversations. Let us celebrate these differences like the colours of Holi, with a spirit of inclusivity, understanding, and harmony.”